Not Always Better Together

General Article

Everyone wants to live happily ever after, but the truth is that sometimes happily ever after does not mean staying together. For every reason there is to get married, there are just as many equally valid reasons to get divorced. While of course no one wants to be in the position of having to get divorced, sometimes it is the better option for everyone involved.

Finances

The boring truth is that a large part of marriage is financial. Just as money is often a driving factor in getting married, it is also a driving factor behind the divorce. Financial issues are often the cause of divorce and can create the most difficulty when getting a marital settlement agreement Tampa or your area.

Mistakes

You will make mistakes in your married life. Some will be small and forgivable. Others will be large and harder for your partner to accept. You can ask for forgiveness, but you cannot expect it. It is up to your partner to find it in them to forgive you, just as it will be up to you to find the ability to forgive your partner’s mistakes. Accept that forgiveness is not always possible. Make peace with the fact that when trust has been lost, separation will likely follow. Some issues can be worked through but sometimes it is better to apologize and walk away.

Growth and Change

All this comes down to the one constant in life: change. People change, sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse, but mostly they just change and evolve over time. Sometimes it’s not people who change but circumstances: maybe your job changes or you need to move far away.

Don’t be unkind to yourself or your partner for changing. You couldn’t have known when you got married what would change and how. If it’s time to separate and move on, then it’s time to separate and move on.